Mystery of Hearts

Imagine this as a handwritten letter written to each young girl who finds herself in this season. Even though I've never dated, I understand the emotions and desires behind the girlish heart, and I would like to share a few thoughts from my perspective...
Our hearts are vulnerable. We are pliable because we've reached a point in time where we feel "incomplete" and in need of something. The Lord has put a beautiful, holy desire within young women to be married and raise a family, but it isn't one that should ever be characterized by an "incompleteness." You have found your perfect match in Jesus Christ--as cliche as it sounds, it's entirely true, and nothing can ever change that reality. His perfection and fullness is all you can ever need to be completely satisfied.
But what about the longing? Why do we want something more? Honestly, I can only view it in light of Christ: I want Him; the intimacy I desire from the Father can only be partially experienced on earth through a spouse. And, of course, God created man and women to be joined together as one, but, again, that stems from the perfect picture of intimacy with HIM. We want to be known. We want to be loved. We want to be desired! Think about those three sweet, deep, secret longings of our soul: they can all be found in the very depth of God's heart. He created us to want loving; He created us to want knowing; He created us with desire!
The very best place you can be, right now and forever, is pressing into His satisfaction in light of the longings you feel. The very best choice you can make toward marriage is to choose God above all else--to seek His heart relentlessly.
We love because He first loved us. Think about it, girls: if He hadn't loved, we wouldn't love. Unfortunately, in the English language, there is only one word for love. But there are distinctions, of course: brotherly love and intimate love. The brotherly love is a love you feel for your family and friends; intimate love is the love you will feel and give your husband some day. When you say, 'I love you' to your crush or boyfriend, there is a deep meaning that you must understand: it is said in terms of intimate love, right? Because you have an affection for this young boy or man? If we love because God loved us first, then the love of the Father is in us, agreed? The only love we have is a love stemmed from God's heart. When we say, 'I love you,' it needs to reflect HIS love to be truthful and pure. His love is relentless. His love is forever. His love has no bounds. His love has commitment beyond feeling. His love lasts forever. Are you ready to represent that type of love? Are you ready to love like that? Those beautiful three words need to remain sacred.
Of course, we are human, so our love will be broken, but we are still called to be Christians: little Christs. God loves us intimately. He is betrothed to us. We are waiting for Him! Remember? I forget sometimes, and I get wrapped up in my own dreams and desires. But, He is coming! And we don't know the hour! Jesus doesn't even know the hour! Pray for your future husband: he will be coming in the same way if he is pursuing Gods heart; he will be drawn to you because God has put it on his heart, and then he will pursue YOU--not the other way around (as tempting as it is, girls, I know!). The time is a mystery! We don't know when we will fall in love, but for now, remember that your love must be grounded in Jesus first. He loves you intimately, and you must learn, at His feet, what that truly means.